I’ve just spent the last two weeks on the beaches of Thailand in Koh Samui and Koh Phangan. If my posts about these places have been thin on the ground, it’s because I really don’t have all that much to say about them. The beaches were nice, the food was nice, the people were nice, and I got some work done – riveting stuff, eh? If there is something that I have learned from travel already (and I’ve only been away from home for three weeks) it’s that I am way more of a city rat than I am a beach bum. I even opted to leave Koh Phangan early, missing the full moon party, because I was having pangs to be back in Thailand’s capital, Bangkok. The moment the overnight bus pulled into the bus station, waves of relief washed over me, relief from escaping a beautiful beach and reaching a crazy city. Yup, that’s me.
Love cities. Hate overnight buses. Image courtesy of twicepix.
Most people I’ve met on my travels in Thailand feel just the opposite – they escape the city to get to the beach. So what is it about city life that I love so much? It is actually pretty hard to pin this down, but I have a feeling my love for the city is related to a forward thinking attitude and a sense of multiplicity that is more apparent in urban centres. The forwardness of cities and the multiplicity within a city are also related to each other. More so than any other place, the city is a site where many different groups of people converge, living and working together. In my hometown of London, I have friends from other parts of the UK, friends from across Europe, and friends from farther reaches of the world as well. Similarly, I have worked with people from all over the world. Invariably, these separate groups, with all of their differences, have a great deal to learn from each other. And learn from each other is exactly what they do. For me, being part of a city culture isn’t about being swept away in the crazy pace of city life, it’s about having an openness that comes from forming a community of people that come from all walks of life.
The magnificent Bangkok skyline. Image courtesy of octanou.
This openness to people and sense of community learning, I think leads to cities being more forward-thinking than other places. It’s not universally the case, for example there are people in the city who get trapped within a strange ideal of working extensive hours and doing everything they can to move up the career ladder while ignoring the other factors that make life worth living. Sometimes the disparity of people living in a city is just too great and it doesn’t result in learning but in chaos. In my London neighbourhood, there were some very extreme riots that led to buildings and cars going up in flames and many businesses being damaged. This was a result of the increasing gap between rich and poor in the city, and although I don’t condone the actions of the rioters, I can’t imagine how frustrated with your life you would have to be to take such extreme action.
My home neighbourhood during the London riots. Image courtesy of darrencullen.
These instances aside, if a city can exist with some sense of equality between the different groups of people that inhabit it, I believe that there is nowhere that is more exciting to be than slap bang in the middle of a city. It is also worth noting that one of the main attractions of city life, namely forming an openness through exposure to many kinds of people, is also one of the main attractions of travelling. And thus, I wonder why so many people that travel frequently have such keenness to get away from the big cities and ‘off the beaten track’.
What do you think? Are you a city rat, a beach bum, or a country bumpkin?




10 comments
Scarlett says:
Jan 24, 2013
I love this post! I’m a city rat too… I mean I love a good beach and a cocktail every so often, but I feel so much more at home in cities! I feel like you really get to know a place in them. That’s a crazy pic of the London riots! xx
David @ That Gay Backpacker says:
Jan 25, 2013
I feel ya. It can be good to get away but I doubt I’ll ever be able to call anywhere but a big city “home”.
Wibi says:
Jan 24, 2013
Definitely a big city boy, but currently studying in a little city of Perth in Australia. Originally from the little island of Bali. One day!
Also, Bangkok is alot bigger and modernised than I imagined by the looks of your pictures!
David @ That Gay Backpacker says:
Jan 25, 2013
Some parts of it feel very modern. That skyline is looking over the financial district, so lots of important looking buildings. Then you have all the temples dotted around, reminding you that you are in Asia
John says:
Jan 27, 2013
I was raised in the country, then moved to the city after finishing high school. I could never live in the country again.
That Gay Backpacker says:
Jan 27, 2013
I have a friend who is just the same. He grew up somewhere very remote and as a result is city obsessed, taking all his holidays in big cities.
Fernando says:
Jan 30, 2013
I’m probably country and bumpkin…
After time in NYC thinking I would get there and be swept away by the multicultural, artistic vibrancy of it all, I got tired. I know cities, I have worked and lived in one all my life. I am more inspired by nature and what i don’t know. Or what’s harder for me to get too – Kerala looks amazing from what I saw in your pics.
I like the openness of space, I love empty beaches, I also love being surprised by the openness of the people that live there. It’s great to not have intense amounts of information being thrown in my face like in cities. I enjoy looking out onto water, having a fruit juice, going for a walk, reading a book, doing nothing. I like to party too but i prefer to sit around a a fire, or sip a beer on a terrace and have good conversation.
My favourite city is Berlin, which is spacious, vibrant, historically interesting and artistically intriguing. I love that city. It has the qualities I love about cities and country in one place. It’s a real Live-And-Let-Live space… It’s special.
That Gay Backpacker says:
Feb 2, 2013
I like Berlin too – but I still prefer my hometown of London – ha!
I’ve actually just spent three days trekking in some remote places in north Thailand. It was amazing! One of my favourite activities is walking. But now I am pleased to be back in a city again!
Roberto says:
Feb 7, 2013
The way you just described the city makes me think we should get married….hahaha
But I’m definitly a city boy. Grew up in Sydney, then my parents moved me to a coastal town and I fucking hated it. I’ve since lived in London (Hackney and Camden), Berlin, Vienna, and NYC. Nature is amazing, Mother Nature blessed us with some beautiful fucking things, but when I think of the city, and how mankind has CREATED this mammoth conglomerations of buildings and people to me is far more fascinating.
I fit in in the city, I don’t ever worry about whether or not people are judging me (because chances are they are) but i’ll more than likely never see them again.
You can make a city be whatever you want it to be, you can be completely anonymous or make yourself the complete opposite.
The way you spoke about how you just “had to get back to Bangkok” reminds me of when I was in Jordan and other tourists complained about the capital Amman. I loved it, far more cultural and historical then the touristy beach towns and desert towns.
P.S. FUCKING love this blog.
That Gay Backpacker says:
Feb 7, 2013
Roberto! This could well be my favourite blog comment so far! So I reckon it might be worth giving that marriage thing a whirl.
I’m pleased that you decided to live in the very best spot in London – Hackney. What a complete treasure of a place. I’m actually missing it quite a bit as I travel.
And I’m totally on board with the idea of loving the city for the lack of judgement that gets passed my way. I’m currently in a shitty small town in north Thailand, which I am hating. All the tourists look at me like I am bonkers for wearing shorts above the knee. *eye roll*
Enjoy all your future city travels and thanks for readin’!